 When we come into partnership with someone, it is usually a joyous time filled with positive projections for the future. Whether you discussed money before you began or not, there are certain things that cannot be predicted such as job loss or economic downturn. In the heat of dealing with the pressure of the financial loss personally, it can be a pressure cooker when dealing with it with your partner. The number 1 cause of arguments in a marriage is money. At Oak Creek, we love to provide resources for people to bookmark for later when they need them, so we have put together some useful tips and links to California specific resources for you. Whether you’ve stumbled across our page or have been receiving services via telehealth or at our clinic in Pleasant Hill, we hope this information can benefit you now or in the future. Reframe When it comes to sitting down with your partner to discuss the financial situation, take a moment to tell each other that the ‘adversary’ is the financial problem and not each other. Look to see if you qualify for government assistance or resources Being a California resident comes with a high price. A part of that cost is paying into multiple assistance programs that everyone has the right to be able to apply for and take part in. These programs are there to be used by people who it could benefit and the more people that use them, the more well-funded they will be come. Whether it’s seeking assistance with your groceries through food stamps or having your taxes done for free depending on your tax bracket, these services can be an incredible help for as long as you need it. Take a look at the programs that CA has available for its residence and see if any of them could make an impact on your family. Take Breaks When things get heated or old wounds get triggered, it is fair and responsible to take a break from the conversation. Before you start the conversation, you could set the expectation that if someone needs to take a 5-10 minutes or more to cool off and be able to come back to have a productive conversation, it should be encouraged. Most Problems are not fixed overnight Just because we wish it could be fixed after one or two conversations, conversations about finances are a relationship long process. Coming into the conversation with that understanding can help reduce pressure. Seek Help Whether it’s a financial planner or a couple’s counselor, getting another person involved that has been trained to assist in the emotional or the financial conversation could help you bring long lasting tools into the relationship. Financial stress can take a serious toll on relationships—but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Whether you’re facing ongoing money arguments, the strain of job loss, or simply struggling to communicate about finances with your partner, support is available. At Oak Creek Relational Counseling Center in Pleasant Hill, California, we specialize in helping couples strengthen their connection during challenging times. If you are experiencing an emergency or are in crisis: please call 988, 911 or call Crisis Support Support Services at 1-800-309-2131.
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